Do Not Get In A Confrontation With Her Over It
Video Transcribed: My name is Brian L. Jackson and I’m a Tulsa Father’s Rights Attorney. And today I’m going to talk about what you, as a dad should do if you catch her cheating on you. Last time we talked about what you should do if you were the one that was doing the cheating. Now we’re going to turn the tables.
What about if she’s cheating? Well, I’m going to give you similar advice. Do not get in a confrontation with her over it. This is again, it’s a potentially explosive situation. And if you’re angry, the last thing you want to do is lose control.
If you know you’re mad and really hurt, again I would suggest walk away. Leave. Do not stay in that situation. Do not get in a battle with her. And if you walk in on her with some other dude, definitely leave. Just walk out the door.
If you believe your children are in any kind of immediate danger, there’s DHS or in an extreme case, there’s the police. But I definitely don’t suggest you want to risk getting in an altercation with your children’s mother or whatever guy she was with. It’s not worth it.
I would offer to you guys any female that you have to go get in a jealousy fight with another guy over, isn’t worth it. I’ll just be telling you that right now. I don’t care how long you’ve been with her. I don’t care if you’re married. I don’t care if you got kids together, it’s not worth it.
She’s already been disloyal to you. Why would you want to get yourself in criminal trouble and potentially catch a protective order and have your rights to your kids restricted for domestic violence over some stupid jealousy fight? It’ll ruin your life. It’s not worth it. So walk away.
Also, get a lawyer involved immediately. Get out ahead of it. If you’re sure you’re done, go file divorce, or go file paternity, you file for custody. Whatever you need to do. As I said, if you believe there’s an immediate threat to the safety and welfare of your children, you may need to call DHS. You may want to call the police. Definitely want to get a lawyer involved again and have them file something appropriate with the court.
Get on top of it. Don’t screw around. Don’t let her run you out of the house and run you out of your children’s lives. You need to get on that immediately. If you’re married, you can legally take the children. If there’s no custody order, and you’re still married, and you’re walking out that day, yes, you can take your children with you. And depending on the circumstances, you may very well want to do that.
Although, you should be aware that you need to have someplace to go that is going to be child-friendly. And if you’re dealing with children too, you better have a plan for that. You can’t just pick them up and go.
But legally, if you’re married, you both have custody. If you were married, living together, and there was no custody order, you both have custody. So you have as much right to the kids as she does. So you can make that decision if you want to. Just be aware, you better have someplace to take the kids. And you better have a plan.
So that’s what you do and what you don’t do. And as I say, I would get ahead of that as fast as possible. And do not think with your emotions, that’s how you can get yourself in trouble, as the last point. And what I mean by that is obviously don’t go get in a fight.
Don’t get in a screaming match with her. Don’t try to confront her over the telephone. If you need to communicate with her, it should be again in writing. And it should be related to business items, not the million, what were you thinking?
Kind of text messages. Because that can earn you a protective order and you don’t want to go there. So if you catch her, I would suggest at least until you’re cool-headed enough to make some rational decisions do not interact with her. So we’ve been talking about what to do if you catch her cheating. My name is Brian L. Jackson, I’m a Dads’ rights attorney in Tulsa