Nesting Agreements Can Provide Some Short-Term Continuity for Your Children

Video Transcribed: So you want to do a nesting agreement in Tulsa and you’re wondering if it might fix some problems for you. Well, let’s talk about that. My name is Brian L. Jackson. I am an Oklahoma father’s rights attorney. And today we’re going to talk about when a nesting agreement is a good idea.

So nesting agreement’s a good idea if you’re looking to provide some short-term continuity for your children, so they’re not finding themselves shuffled back and forth between households, particularly if you’re trying to do joint custody, a nesting agreement can be a good idea.

It requires some sacrifice on behalf of the parents because the parents are going to have a lot less stability, but at least the children will have some continuity and stability during the pendency of the divorce. It’s also could be a good idea if you’re dealing with a situation where one parent lives in the state and one parent lives out of state, and you want to share custody.

If you have the means to travel on a regular basis, back to Oklahoma or the other parent has those means, then this can be a way to avoid those outrageous hotel bills and to avoid having to pack children into a hotel room, which although it may be fun to the children in the short term, if they’re younger children, or if they like the amenities of the hotel, in the longterm that’s expensive and hotel rooms are fricking tiny.

I mean, anyone who has stayed in a hotel, even a luxury hotel, the hotel rooms are itty-bitty, that’s a very small space to be crammed into with children on a regular basis. So those are some advantages.

Another reason to, if you want to save on rent for your new place during the pendency, and don’t want to have to make an arrangement that makes a serious sacrifice in terms of custodial parenting time, then the nesting agreement can be a solution because then you can get the little cracker box apartment and still get half the time with your children.

And it might save you some money while you’re still dealing with the cost of the divorce. And depending on the nature of the divorce, they can be costly, even agreed divorces aren’t cheap. If it gets really heated and contested, then yeah, that’s a potential major expense. And the nesting agreement might save you a little bit off of rent.

And of course, it also will allow you to establish the fact that at least part of the time you do live with your children and you can go to court and say with a straight face, “Hey, I live with the kids too. I should have equal rights. I have a status quo like that.” And that status quo is very important in ultimately what the court’s going to do custodial.

Some other reasons to do it are if you want to keep your kids in the same school, and one of you is going to change school districts. If they have a lot of friends in the neighborhood, and again, you’re going to move somewhere further away. These are other benefits that certainly benefit the child. And therefore you looking like the good guy by going along with this.

Also keep this in mind if you do want to date or if mom’s dating and you want to make sure you keep those degrees of separation, Ooh, geez. Those degrees of separation between the SO and the children, and you want to cohabitate, this is one way you could cohabitate with your SO without having them around the kids and without having them have to be booted out of your place when the children come over, because you’re going to go stay with the children, they can stay at your other place.

So there are some advantages to it. There are also pitfalls, and we’re going to talk about those next time, but for now, guys, if you need help with any kind of a legal issue involving you and your children, you should go to dads.law.