Alimony Isn’t Just for Ex-Husbands Anymore
Does only the ex-husband pay alimony? What about the ex-wife? Hi, I’m Tulsa Dads.Law attorney Clint Hastings. I practice here in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and I focus on fathers’ rights. I’ve gotten this question a lot during my 25 years of practicing family law.
As times have changed—and they’ve been changing for quite a while now—women often earn as much or even more than men. So why would the ex-husband be the only one responsible for paying alimony?
Alimony Based on Need and Ability to Pay
The answer is: he’s not. That’s not how it works. Alimony is based on need and ability to pay. The spouse who needs financial support after the divorce may be awarded alimony if the other spouse has the ability to pay—regardless of gender.
So, if you’ve been a stay-at-home dad, or if you simply earn significantly less than your ex-wife, you can absolutely apply for alimony—and you may very well receive it.
Changing Perspectives on Alimony
What’s changed a lot over the last 5 to 10 years is how judges view this issue. There has traditionally been a bias against awarding alimony to men, but that’s something the legal system is working to overcome. Judges now rotate more frequently—at least here in Tulsa—and that’s brought fresh perspectives to the bench.
We also now have many more female judges, many of whom understand firsthand that in modern relationships, women are often the higher earners. So if you’re eligible for alimony and want to pursue it, we can help you build a strong case and give you the best chance of success.
Call Now for a Consultation
Call us at 918-962-0900 to schedule a consultation with Tulsa alimony attorney Clint Hastings on this or any other family law matter. We’d be glad to talk with you. Thanks.
