Oklahoma Fathers Rights
Part 6: Your Record and Custody
Today, we’re continuing our series on parental fitness and the real-world factors judges look at when deciding custody, beyond just what’s written in the statutes. These are the things I talk about with clients all the time to help them improve their chances of getting custody. Let’s talk about criminal history. This comes up often—fathers asking whether a past conviction will affect their custody case. The short answer is: yes, it can. And the more serious or recent the charge, the more impact it could have. Read more »
Part 5: Sober Parents Get Custody
Today's topic: drug and alcohol use—a big one. Now, this may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how often clients try to downplay it. These aren't minor details—they’re major red flags in custody court. Even if you're no longer drinking or using, your history matters. Judges weigh past behavior heavily. If Mom doesn’t have that kind of record, this factor alone can tip the scales in her favor, even if everything else is equal. So what can you do? Get ahead of it. If you're struggling with alcohol or drugs, get help now. If it’s in your past but you think it might come up—start testing voluntarily. Read more »
Part 4: How Discipline Affects Custody
Today’s focus is on discipline, a critical factor in determining parental fitness in custody cases. Whether it's providing structure or avoiding harshness, your approach to discipline speaks volumes about your parenting style. While Oklahoma allows spanking within limits, it's best to steer clear of it to avoid potential complications in court. A significant contrast in discipline methods between co-parents can heavily influence a judge's decision. Emphasizing consistency, structure, and calm discipline over punitive measures could significantly impact your custody outcome. For personalized advice or strategic guidance, reach out to Tulsa child custody attorney Clint Hastings. More insightful videos on parenting fitness are coming your way. Read more »
Part 3: Daily Care and Custody
Today’s focus: basic care and daily routines. We’re talking about everyday parenting responsibilities—getting the kids dressed, brushing teeth, bath time, meals, and hygiene. These seem simple, but they carry serious weight in court. Judges want to know who consistently handles these tasks. Many fathers assume, “Of course I can do that!” But the key question is: Have you been doing it? If that’s the case for you, and you’re in the middle of a divorce or custody dispute, start now. Establish your consistent routine when the children are with you. Read more »
Part 2: Why Residency Matters in Custody Cases
The impact of residency and relocation on custody cases can be significant. Courts often prioritize stability for children, so frequent moves or a pattern of relocation could work against a parent seeking custody. Conversely, if one parent has a long-term presence in the community while the other tends to move around, the more stable parent may have an advantage in court. Considerations about uprooting kids, disrupting routines, and maintaining consistency will all play a role in custody decisions. Understanding these factors can help parents navigate the complexities of custody disputes. Stay tuned for more insights from Tulsa child custody attorney Clint Hastings. Read more »
Part 1: Custody Isn't About Your Job
Today, the focus is on how judges consider fitness and what factors truly influence custody decisions in divorce cases. Clint breaks down the common-sense approach he uses when advising his clients. The first factor discussed is employment, where stability and availability are key considerations. The type of job, work schedule, and overall impact on the ability to parent are all important aspects to evaluate. The overarching message is that having a high-paying job doesn't automatically make you the more fit parent. The next video will explore residency and stability of living arrangements. Read more »
What If My Child Won't Go to Visitation?
Today, let’s talk about what to do when your child doesn’t want to go to visitation with their mother. The first thing you need to figure out is why. Is there something going on between them? Are they upset about something? Or is it just that they’d rather stay home and play Xbox or hang out with a friend? You’ve got to dig into the reason—especially if it’s something like a conflict in schedules or a one-off issue. That may be easier to fix. If it’s more serious—like emotional distress or a falling out—you’ll need to consider some deeper solutions, like involving a reconciliation therapist. A therapist can help figure out what’s really going on and may spot signs of fear, anxiety, or discomfort in your child that need to be addressed. Read more »
Dads, Don't Get Caught in this Trap
Today, a common question was answered regarding child support and visitation rights in a family law case. Both issues are separate and should not be used against one another. If a court order exists for visitation or child support, both parties are legally obligated to follow it. If a parent withholds visitation, a motion can be filed to enforce it, and a hearing must be set within 21 days in Oklahoma. Evidence, such as text messages, can strengthen the case in court. It is important to address these issues through proper legal channels for a swift resolution. Read more »
Can You Lose Custody Over This?
In today's video, a Tulsa attorney answers a listener's question about protective orders and custody rights. He explains how a protective order can negatively impact custody decisions, shifting the burden of proof onto the affected parent. The attorney warns against assuming a protective order will simply go away, as it could be a precursor to divorce proceedings or a custody battle. He emphasizes the importance of challenging false allegations effectively in court to protect custody rights. For more insights on this topic, visit the attorney's website and consider reaching out with any further questions. Read more »
How To Handle DHS - Part 3
Today's video focuses on what to do if DHS is involved in allegations regarding your child, especially if they are discussing removing your child from your home. It's crucial to contact an attorney immediately for legal guidance to protect your rights and avoid saying anything incriminating. Even if you've already spoken with DHS, you can still pause and request legal counsel before continuing. Stand firm in asserting your right to legal representation, as this is about your child, family, and future. For further resources and information, visit their website. Don't hesitate to reach out with any questions for future videos. Read more »
Scared of DHS? Start Here - Part 2
In the last video, we talked about what to do if DHS approaches you to investigate or interview you after someone has made allegations against you. One important point to remember is that you may not always know exactly what those allegations are. You might think you know, but the claims may be different, exaggerated, or entirely false. Sometimes, children can misunderstand or misinterpret situations, especially younger ones. In other cases, older children may make accusations out of anger or because they want to influence custody decisions. That’s why it's essential to consult with an attorney right away. Read more »
Before You Talk to DHS, Watch This - Part 1
Today, Tulsa Dads.Law attorney Clint Hastings addresses a common question: What should you do if DHS approaches you for an investigation? Whether you reported the allegations or not, consulting with an attorney first is wise. Be polite but firm, asserting your right to legal representation. Investigators may discourage this, but it's important to protect your rights. You might not fully understand the allegations’ seriousness, so having an attorney present ensures clarity and proper representation. While it’s your choice to proceed alone, having legal guidance from the start is usually smarter. Watch for the next part where Tulsa family law attorney Clint Hastings provides more insight on this issue. Read more »
Keep Your Case Private in Oklahoma
Here’s a quick video about the importance of privilege and confidentiality with your attorney. Your confidentiality with your attorney is a statutory right. This means you cannot be forced to testify about things you've discussed in confidence with your attorney, nor can you be made to testify about their advice to you on those matters. You must keep your discussions with your attorney private. It's also important to be cautious when having other people present during your meetings with your attorney. The best advice here is to always ask your attorney what is confidential and what isn’t, and be mindful of your conversations. Read more »
Part 4: Guard Against Unsafe Parents in OK
In this video, Tulsa father's attorney Clint Hastings discusses what to do if you suspect your spouse is using drugs or alcohol around the kids. The court's main goal is to protect the children, not to punish the other parent. Temporary restrictions like supervised visitation and regular drug testing may be put in place to ensure the children's safety. Ideally, the other parent takes responsibility and shows progress through counseling or rehab programs. Judges typically won't order someone into rehab but will lift restrictions once clean tests and consistent behavior are demonstrated. It can be a challenging situation, but help is available for navigating it. Read more »
Part 3: Guard Against Unsafe Parents in OK
In the first two videos, we covered what steps to take depending on where you are in the divorce process, and what kinds of drug and alcohol tests are available. Now let’s talk about what happens after you get those test results — and what the court might do with them. Let’s say she tests positive. That can be a big deal in court, especially if the impairment happened around the children. On the other hand, a negative test doesn’t always mean she’s clean. Read more »
Part 2: Guard Against Unsafe Parents in OK
Part two of the series delves deeper into the legal options available if a spouse is impaired by drugs or alcohol during a custody battle or divorce. The possibilities include requesting a court-ordered drug test or utilizing statutory discovery for testing. Various testing methods range from urinalysis to hair follicle tests to ETG alcohol hair tests. Each test has its own detection window, with some able to detect substance use months back. However, additional evidence may be necessary to prove risky behavior. To navigate this complex situation, seeking professional guidance is crucial. Read more »
Part 1: Guard Against Unsafe Parents in OK
Bright lede: Here’s part one of a two-part video answering a question we received from a viewer: Summary: The video addresses what to do if a spouse is impaired by drugs and alcohol, offering guidance on when to file for divorce, how to handle concerns about child safety, and how to request drug or alcohol testing through the legal process. The speaker advises seeking legal help if facing a similar situation and promises more detailed information in part two of the video. Read more »
Late for Court? Don't Panic
When facing the possibility of being late for court, it's crucial to take immediate action by contacting your attorney. Failing to update your attorney on your lateness can lead the judge to assume you've disregarded your hearing, potentially harming your case. If you can't reach your attorney, try contacting the judge's clerk through the courthouse's listed number or email address. I've witnessed cases where clients seem indifferent to their delayed arrival, which can negatively impact their court appearance. It's always better to notify someone if you're running late, or better yet, aim to arrive early to court. For further guidance, consult with Clint Hastings, a Tulsa attorney specializing in assisting fathers. Read more »
Protective Orders: Get a Lawyer?
Protective order hearings are complex legal proceedings that can have a significant impact on your custody rights. Whether you are the plaintiff or defendant, having an attorney by your side can make a difference in the outcome. Without legal knowledge, you may struggle to navigate the evidence, objections, and cross-examinations involved in these trials. For defendants, decisions made in protective order court could have lasting consequences in civil cases as well. Considering this, seeking legal representation is crucial for a successful defense. If you are facing a protective order hearing, reach out to Tulsa Dads.Law for a consultation to ensure you have the support you need. Read more »
Can a Judge Block Your Visitation?
Clint Hastings, an attorney focusing on father’s rights in Tulsa, Oklahoma, dives into a common question: Can a protective order judge take away visitation rights with children? In short, it depends. If the order includes your children and prohibits contact, then visitation rights may be suspended. However, in many cases, family law matters like divorce can be linked to the protective order. Temporary restrictions on visitation may be imposed by the judge, but long-term limitations require a separate order from the family law judge. Have questions? Reach out for a chance to see them covered in a future video! Read more »
